All day long
I breathe in
I breathe out
most of the time unconsciously.
All day long
my eyes open
my eyes close
All day long
my heart beats—
but I don’t notice,
because I’ve been programmed.
The program tells me
I’ve get to get somewhere
and I’ve been living in this program,
asleep my entire life.
It’s time to wake up,
to ditch the old operating system
and install a new one.
It’s time for an update, an upgrade,
to remove the virus
and declutter the hard drive.
I’m ready to run the new program.
I’m ready to love just being alive.
listening to motivational speakers
tell me how to set goals
believe in myself
tweak my mental habits
connect with my why
and in general
optimize my existence
so that the earth will be better
for my having passed by this way…
I allow myself to dream
about bigger things…
something deep inside tells me
I am meant for more.
And it’s amazing to note
that now I’ve begun to value
this woman I’ve become
I can actually believe
what the inner voice is saying…
I really am meant for more.
If it were easy to train your brain
everyone would be doing it.
It is, in fact, one of the most
difficult things to do in the world.
When you install a new habit,
you are actually changing the
physical structure of your brain.
New circuits are created,
old ones are pruned.
While the new is being established
the old seems to redouble its efforts
to keep you the way you’ve always been.
We equate familiarity with safety
even when the familiar is killing us.
If you are trying to replace
an old unhealthy habit
with a new healthy one
I hope you know how strong you are.
I hope you can take moments
to celebrate yourself
for living all the way to this point
and for taking charge
of the way your future will take shape
by attending to this now.
Happy brain training, friends…
my beautiful, strong, courageous friends.
When you’ve gotten in the habit
of being unhappy
it might take a minute to figure out
how to be happy again.
But happiness is a habit,
just like unhappiness.
Habits are formed bit by bit,
day by day…
Choose to be happy
for just a second longer today
than you were yesterday
and you are headed in the right direction.
Make success easy.
You might not be able to meditate for thirty minutes,
but you could sit for five.
You might not have one whole hour to exercise,
but what about a quarter of an hour? Or a few minutes?
It’s easy to avoid the one thing
that will help you the most.
Go inside yourself and ask to see clearly
the blocks you’ve created to avoid your own happiness.
If you’re serious about being happy,
you will bravely seek out the places
shut off from your truest self-expression,
and you will do whatever you have to
in order to melt away the resistance to your joy.
Sometimes this path is not such much a doing,
but an undoing.
It’s a lifelong process,
so we can take the pressure off
to be perfect,
to be better,
to just be good.
We can be who we are
and develop a kindness
meeting our thoughts,
just the way they are.
We can navigate
this sea of emotions
learning how to stay afloat sometimes
and to dive deep, deeper still
We can observe the ways
and instead of always
staying on the well-worn paths
we might forge new ones.
When we don’t have to
become someone else
or achieve something else,
when we don’t have to change something
or fix something,
the pressure is off;
we can relax into this moment.
The choice, as always, is yours.
Will you choose to relax with your humanness,
to cultivate a friendly attitude toward yourself?
Will you choose to open to this moment,
to be healthier and happier
and more grateful for this day?
Please say yes.
Don’t expect your worst habits
as you walk this warrior path.
they grow stronger
and fight back more fiercely.
They want to regain the ground they lost;
They want to survive.
This is why humor is so vital.
If we can introduce some levity,
if we can smile warmly at ourselves,
nod, recognize where we have
slipped back into the same old pattern–
now we can choose to remain present,
to see ourselves past the old habits
of misinterpretation, misunderstanding,
Now we can choose to keep going,
to take another step
as we learn how to love ourselves
Don’t set up the target for an arrow,
looking for places to point your aggression,
to lay your blame for this intensity
that has erupted in you.
You have a choice.
All obstacles are teachers.
All events are learning opportunities.
Do you want to strengthen the habit
by giving your attention to it,
or can you sit with the anger,
and feel compassion for those
who experience the same intensity?
Connect with your heart…
the sense of ME melts,
becomes less sticky,
and now you can see
that this is all a dream.