Being ok with change takes practice, so don’t be hard on yourself for not taking this well. We are hardwired to gravitate toward familiarity— it’s how we all survived this long, so in a deep, instinctive way, we all yearn to get back to “normal.” And yet… we were made for these times. This is what we have been preparing for. So, beloveds, take a deep breath, be extra kind, gentle and loving with yourself, hold all your hurting parts with tenderness. Change is hard and sometimes life sucks, but you aren’t alone. We will get through this together.
I ended up in a twelve step meeting a couple of months after my husband decided he no longer wanted to be married anymore. I was devastated; having trouble eating and sleeping, feeling isolated because I had lost a lot of friends in the separation. The coach I was working with suggested a meeting, and found one for me in town. The first meeting I inwardly criticized the room, thought it needed to be redecorated. The second meeting I realized everyone in my life is codependent. The third meeting I started to believe that the program might help me if I worked it. Two and a half years later, I know my program has saved my life. I have found a sponsor and am working the steps slowly but surely… getting ready to do a fourth step soon. When I was ready to give up on life, this program showed up to demonstrate that grace is active in my life, and I am truly grateful.
Training my mind to be content. Not easy, because my previous programming was to always search for what was wrong. Now I look around, and I see faint glimmers of what it means to truly love life, just as it is. Great Spirit, let me love life, just as it is.
When the light fades and we are plunged in darkness, we look to the strong ones who remember the light, who can encourage us to remember too. When your dark time comes, may you find such a strong one to lift you up and remind you of the truth. And maybe, just maybe, that strong one is YOU.
Enveloped in complete darkness, she spells out clearly from her depths words like ropes reaching, asking someone to take hold and pull her out. Maybe if enough people take just one thread of her words, maybe she’ll be lifted out of her pit and see the light of day once more.
When my happiness depends on the actions of others I’ve given my power away. When my peace depends on certain conditions being met I’ve given my power away. When I rely on someone else to help me to feel a certain way I’ve given my power away. When I believe I need something from someone in order to move forward I’ve given my power away. I gave my power away too many times. Now it’s time to call it back.
Something has changed. I don’t feel so stuck. I’ve chosen to stop listening to the old programming, and replace it with something better. I have to be vigilant. If I don’t watch it, the same old stuff will come cropping up, fill my consiousness, and make me miserable: You’re not good enough. Your life is a mess. You’ll never be happy. You’re a failure. When I start to hear that stuff (it usually begins the moment I wake up) I listen to my affirmations app, or The Quote of the Day Show Podcast, or I repeat this new mantra out loud: I am immune to the opinions of others, positive and negative. I am neither greater nor lesser than anyone else. I am fearless in the face of challenges. Yes, I am choosing to rigorously reprogram my mind. Little by little, day by day, I’m starting to feel okay about myself and my life. Even if there are some unknowns about my future. Even if there are some unresolved questions in my heart. Even if I sometimes mess up… I choose to live my life as an adventure, a life that no one has ever lived before. This is my life. I choose to live it on my terms.