It’s coming down hard and fast. The skies are grey, the wind is stirring the trees that are still naked because of the lingering winter. The rain is coming down sideways, pelting the windows and doors, and everyone is still asleep in this murky light.
My body is sick again. Nose running all day yesterday, both kids sick too, we went through so many tissues that we had to ask my sister to grab us some more from the drug store. My mom and sister came over to watch the kids so that I could see my husband at his salon and have my hair done by him for the first time since November. We had a reservation for dinner afterwards; as I sat at home sick yesterday, I wondered if I’d have the strength to drag myself out to have a much-needed date with the husband. I did.
I arrived at the salon right at closing time. The other stylists, the assistants and the receptionist were slowly filtering out. I chatted with them briefly, I know them all and although my husband works with them, I rarely get to see them myself. Then they were gone, and it was quiet. My hubby worked on my hair for three hours, giving me ombre ends, taking great pains to make sure the transition from my normal brown to the lighter color was smooth. Lots of foils on my head, I sat under the processor for quite some time, and my husband and I chatted in the empty salon. I reached for a tissue every so often, was feeling resistant to being sick–but nothing could be done, so my only work was dealing with the resistance. After he shampooed the hair color out of my hair, and conditioned and blew it dry and brushed it, then he curled it with an interestingly shaped conical curling iron, with a bigger diameter at the end and a smaller diameter at the base. It was fun to see my normally slightly wavy hair full of big bouncy curls. I told him I loved it.
Dinner was nice…just being able to sit and enjoy my food without having to jump up and take care of someone else–pure luxury. We enjoyed crab bisque, and a lovely salad with roasted beet, chèvre, pine nuts, radish sprouts and argula. I ended up sending my main course back, and it was interesting to watch my mental process as I debated on whether or not the server would be upset for my not wanting to eat what I had ordered. The scallops were rubbery and too salty, and I finally reasoned that I wouldn’t pay thirty dollars for a dish I wasn’t enjoying. A sign that I’m validating my feelings and standing up for myself? Perhaps. Taking little steps on this path to self-realization. Honoring my truth…
The server was apologetic and asked if I wanted something else. I declined–I was already mostly full from the rich bisque and the wonderful salad, but I did end up having bites of my husband’s entree. Desert, coffee, check paid, we ventured out into the rainy night, grateful that it had abated somewhat and was no longer the torrential downpour that it was just fifteen minutes earlier. Back at home, my daughter still wasn’t in bed although it was past ten o’clock. It took much convincing and nose wiping to get her to lie down, but I heard her getting up and my husband being stern with her multiple times while I attempted my evening meditation. It is extremely difficult to sit still and focus inwards when my body is exhausted and sick. I cut the session short in the interests of getting more rest, went downstairs, and discovered my daughter was still awake. My husband was clearly peeved.
I lay down with her in her bed, spoke softly to her, wiped her nose, rubbed her back. Nothing really worked. She wasn’t feeling well and the sensations in her body were keeping her awake. We tried soothing throat drops, more encouragement…finally we gave her some medicine, and I guess it helped somewhat because she finally grew quiet. By this time it was after midnight.
My body woke me up this morning to tell me that it was still sick. I have two yoga classes to teach today and I don’t want to miss them because I’ll again be in teacher training next weekend. I’m thinking about how I want my body to keep doing, keep performing, and how really all I need is to be still and rest. But honestly, in a household with two small children, going out and teaching yoga seems like a much more restful prospect than staying at home and having to attend to their needs.
It’s coming down hard and fast…the storm inside my own mind, full of thoughts, full of craving, full of aversion. After attempting my morning sit and discovering that focus and stillness were markedly limited due to my physical state, I’m sitting here at the table drinking a cup of tea and hoping that I can be cheerful in spite of the challenges this day is already presenting.
Glad to have fit my writing practice in. I have hopes that I’ll remember to breathe and do the best I can.
May the rain outside wash away the dust and dirt of the world. May the rain inside wash away the dust and dirt of my mind…